With the opening of a new year I decided to re-evaluate whats going on in my life and as a result of this process I have come to some conclusions.
One, belief in self is a game changing factor in all aspects of life because with confidence comes charisma, with charisma comes influence, and with influence comes opportunity… To put it simply if I don’t believe in me then how could I expect others to?
Two, stop wasting effort on those who give no effort to you. You’re just building a castle on a foundation of sand in the end you and your pride will lose.
Three, Treat the present like a present wake up everyday day and be thankful to be here because this will not last forever if your current situation is extra sweet cherish it and live in the moment and do not waste time thinking about tomorrow enjoy what is right in front of you and pay attention because some opportunities never present themselves twice.
Four, Appreciate those who give a fuck about you. You know those people who are always looking out for you no matter how long it’s been since you last spoke, the people who always make time for you even if you haven’t been going out of your way to connect with them like you once did. Those are your true peeps those are the people who really appreciate you because your impact on their life is like sunshine on a cloudy day and one day they may provide you with an umbrella when life decides to rain on your parade.
Five, If you are comfortable you lose. Do not become complacent and do not become stagnant. Continuously challenge yourself and strive for greatness and never get satisfied with yourself. Life isn’t a video game where once you reach level 99 you can grow no more. Your potential is limitless and how talented you become is completely up to you and how hard you are willing to work for it. Remember that the largest component of our body is water therefore we must be like water always flowing always going always learning always growing.
Six, trust in your instincts they’ve gotten you this far. If you feel as if something isn’t right or someones story does not add up then trust yourself and vice versa if you have a good feeling about something but you cannot explain why, trust that feeling. Scientist say that our subconscious mind is thousands of times more intelligent and insightful than our conscious mind and that is where our instincts come from so trust them.
Seven, fear is a prison. Do not let fear stop you from living your life the way you want to, you’ll miss so many opportunities if you let fear dictate your actions and lack thereof. Instead of giving into fear face it, because if you let it beat you then you will be unable to grow and try new things.
Eight, sometimes you cannot think you just gotta do it. I learned this lesson from sports their come times in life where you will not be given the time to think things out instead you just got to jump right in and handle your business. Do not spend so much time thinking instead do it and then reflect, over thinking leads to creating to many what ifs and what ifs lead to imaginary problems that aren’t actually there that you will get hung up on because there are no real solutions to imaginary problems.
Nine, speak up if you have a problem with something then voice your opinion. If you like someone then let them know because you have nothing to lose besides a slight hit to your ego which honestly we all need sometimes to keep us in check and plus regret sucks. If you appreciate somebody let them know, because hey who doesn’t like being appreciated. I’m not saying you should constantly throw compliments or praise someones way because you will create a monster but let them know you notice and appreciate what they do because sometimes we all need to be reminded by the people who we do things for why we do those things for them. If you admire and are inspired by someone then let them know because your little gesture may provide them with the energy and the drive to keep going and believing when things aren’t going their way.
Ten, be able to take criticism because some people will criticize you but only because they are trying to get you to see the error of your ways and harsh criticism was the only way they felt you would actually listen and give thought to what they said. The next time someone criticizes you give thought to what they said because what they said could be what everyone notices about you but nobody has the courage to say to you.
Eleven, Love yourself notice how amazing you actually are give yourself credit for the things that you are good at. Simply because somewhere out there someone wishes they could do what you do best. Most importantly love yourself so that when somebody else begins to love you it will make sense to you. You will not question how they could love someone like you and ruin it with you insecurity. Instead you’ll just be like dam right they love me i’m fucking awesome.
These are the lessons i’ve learned up to this point in my life from experience and those who I follow on tumblr. I hope that these ideas will help you like they will help me to grow into the person that I aspire to be. This is my final post on tumblr and I hope that it will inspire and bring change to those who were looking for a sign.